Step 1: Arrival and Connection


If you’re practicing the exercise in the video and it gets too intense to hold contact with the body, you can do two things:

A) Hover

B) Hold “around” the space with one hand on the front, and one hand on the back. You can also try one hand on your thigh and one hand up on your belly while you send your breath between the two.


Step 2: Witnessing and Loving


The practice here is to listen, witness, and love. These steps can be used for any Body-Wisdom-ing — connecting and conversing with any part of your body, not just your bowl.


Step 3: Engagement


Breath is important. So how do we use it in a healing, helpful way?

In this video, I guide you through some tips for engaged breathing. I start with some breath awareness building exercises. Then, I guide you through how to apply that tool while you do this or any healing / restorative / transformational work.

When we do this simple exercise (a variation on the Tantra practice I was given) we are moving our hips, engaging the muscles, partnering our breath with our awareness and movement. We move slowly enough to breathe, witness, and love ourselves. This step is a great way to get into a space that can sometimes be a little elusive. We’re still working on the outside of the body, not internally.


Step 4: Asking


Step 4 takes this whole journey deeper.

Once you’re connected, you can use the connection to get clear guidance for your life, from your bowl.

While breathing, listening, and connecting, drop your question into your bowl like you’re dropping a penny into a wishing well. Listen. Wait attentively to hear the penny land and the water ripple out. I love this metaphor for asking the body questions because it can be a helpful image but also a sensory one; you can imagine your body being the well, and the pelvic bowl (or anywhere you’re asking) to be the water. The question is the penny — feel it land and then let the ripples be the answers.

Feel. Sense. Listen. Realize.

Tip #1: Be mindful of the way you ask your questions. I invite you to watch my #30 of 50 Things That Help Me Heal to get more insight on asking direct questions. The video is framed in terms of asking others, but everything I share can apply to you talking to yourself as well.

Tip #2: Prepare to hear the very last thing you want to hear.

If you refuse to hear a certain something, it’s like asking and then plugging your ears when the answer comes. Take the time to look at what you are afraid to find out before you ask the question. Then, come to terms with what it means if you were to actually get THAT answer. Make peace with hearing that so that so you can be able to hear anything. Then, ask your question.

(I make it sound sooo easy — good luck!)