Grief ritual. (You can keep your hair.) Stay with me. Grief can be a major under-the-surface cause for grumpy lame things happening in your life. (Sometimes making things that otherwise would be FUN be… well… hard)
Avoiding grief can cause a lot unpleasant things in your life that could be alleviated with just a little bit of focus and spacious time spent honoring the things that can get pushed aside. Our culture SUCKS at grieving.
Grief is not bad, it comes with any change (even “good” change) and it comes with acknowledgement, and it comes with being awake and seeing the state of our world. It’s heavy and can weigh us down, and under and through it is our LOVE, our joys, and the things we most treasure and enjoy. Honor your grief: Find Your Joy.
It may be a good idea for you to do this Ritual soon if:
- it’s winter where you live
- you’ve been grumpy or irritated or impatient
- you’ve been feeling like “I just don’t wanna talk about my feeling and process anymore! Haa-rumph! (sometimes this is because there’s something lurking you don’t want to feel. So go for a run or do a one-song-dance-party or a game and then do this ritual)
- you know its time for a grief ritual
Grief ritual 1o1.
~ Run a bath, put on some heart music or cosmic shuffle, light a candle, do something to create some softening and make some sacred space. Make space for YOURSELF. And then do this Writing prompt. Repeat each prompt until you empty. Give a moment before moving on to the next prompt; for instance, when you think you are done wait 1 minute to see if anything comes up before moving to the next.
Here we GO. You are blessed and loved and adored. Be honest – it’s your pathway to freedom. Love you.
Remember, Use your Breath as your Ally.
- I have grief for…
- The heaviness in me is from…
- My body carries my grief and…
- I am still carrying grief from…
- The grief I carry wants me to know…
- The thing the grief is asking me to do is…
- The pain of my grief…
- My grief has taught me/ my grief is teaching me…
- I am afraid to feel the grief because…
- I trust the grief because…
- Right now, my soul wants me to know…
- I am willing to remember in this moment,
- I know…
- The moon is saying to me…
- The earth is sharing with me…
- The mystery/universe/god/goddess/holy one wants me to know…
- The thing I left out that I need to say is…
- I love and am grateful for…
- What I am welcoming into my life where the grief used to be is…
~ At the end find a witness. You can call in your spirit guides, plants or God, ask a friend or loved one or stranger for that matter. Ask them if they would “Witness” you which means if they would listen and not comment or try to fix what they hear. To listen with love and trust.
*BONUS* Do it together with someone or someones and share together.
~ Read it ALOUD so it can be fully witnessed
~ Then burn it, place it on your altar, bury it, do something else that releases it
~ Reaffirm what you are welcoming into your life!
Love you!!!
Hope this helps. You are held. Loved, adored and all the assistance in the universe needs only your honest invitation to come to your aide.
This will change your life. But hey, life is changing anyway. Xoxoxoxo
Blessings!
Sophia
